Sometimes life can be difficult. That’s when it’s good to have a mom. ~ Kevin Morehouse, age 10
When I was a little girl, my dad played a mean trick on my mom and scared her, which made her burst into tears. In a natural chain reaction, all sisters present began to cry, as well. Dad probably regretted that little joke!
Moms are supposed to be invulnerable… never scared, never hurt, always there to protect and defend. Even after Joel and I grew up and left our homes, our moms have always been there for us.
But this year has seen both our moms scared and hurt, suffering necessary but unwanted procedures in the (same) hospital. Thankfully, they took turns, mine in January, and Joel’s this month, and thankfully, mine has recovered, and Joel’s is recovering.
But still. The emotional toll of witnessing their struggles and pain has been very hard to bear. As I mentioned, Moms aren’t supposed to be scared or hurt. Helpless to do anything at times, I would become restless and distracted, with a large dose of worry and fright of my own.
The respective families rallied around our moms in their need of helping hands and a comforting presence. With my daughter grown and married, it’s been a blessing that I have been able to step up and do things for each mom as needed, and just be with them as an advocate.
One amusing incident amidst all the worry happened last week when I was sitting with Joel’s mom in ICU. When the hospital’s physical therapist came in to assess her condition, I recognized her as the same woman who had helped my mom back in January. As a matter of fact, we were in the room right next door to the one my mom was in.
The PT looked at me and said, “You look familiar to me.” I explained that it was because she helped my mom back in January. I think we were both experiencing a sense of déjà vu!
My mom is back in her apartment now, fully recovered and stronger than before. Joel’s mom still has a ways to go, but she is working hard on her PT. We are hopeful she will be able to return to hers as well, at some point before the end of the year.
So, in this season of Thanksgiving, besides all our usual blessings, I am extra grateful for both our brave and determined moms, their access to outstanding health care, the loving and patient medical personnel that continue to care for them, our bodies’ natural ability to heal and the wonderful place where they both live in such a supportive and vibrant community.
(pewperson will return on December 6)