Take comfort when you think of me,
Keep my love alive in your heart…
– Allison Chambers Coxsey (1996)
Faithful pewperson readers will remember our family’s grief and anguish over the sudden loss of my sister Mary’s husband Bobby last May. ( https://pewperson.wordpress.com/2010/05/07/the-valley-of-tears/) Even after seven months, it has been very hard for me to grasp the finality of it all, given his huge presence in all of our lives.
One of Bobby’s biggest fans was their little dog, Lacey, a wirehaired dachshund. Lacey was actually Mary’s dog before she married Bobby, but when Bobby entered into the picture, she loved him totally. And he loved her back.
Before his death, Lacey was just an adorable bundle of love whose tail never stopped thumping; I don’t think I ever saw her not wagging her tail!
Afterwards, she distanced herself from us all, particularly Mary, who thought that maybe Lacey blamed her for Bobby’s absence. How do you explain such a thing to a dog?
It got to the point that Lacey wouldn’t even go on walks with her, much less sleep with her. She just shut herself down into a doggie depression. There was nothing to do except just love her and hope that she would eventually come around.
Mary came to our house on Christmas Day, and was jubilant that Lacey had all of a sudden on Christmas Eve returned to her loving self, happily went on a walk with her and Joey (a lanky greyhound… talk about Mutt & Jeff!) and then slept with her that night.
I can’t help but think that Bobby had a hand in this transformation on this particular day. It was his Christmas gift to Mary, and she treasures that thought, as do I. It was a whisper from heaven into a little dog’s ear.
And now, once again it’s New Year’s Eve, a day that always brings a sense of anticipation of a bright and shining future, with hopes and dreams for a better tomorrow. A year ago was no different, and yet 2010 turned out to be not so happy for us. Saying farewell to it won’t be hard, as we look forward to what 2011 will bring.
Should all plans fall neatly into place, 2011 will bring a summer wedding for our daughter, a new baby for our niece, assorted graduations and a new start in law school for our son in law to be. There is much to look forward to!
My wish and prayer is that your 2011 will be filled with blessings, peace, happiness, faith, love, family, good health and successful endeavors. And if, my friend, you have all these things, then you are rich, indeed!