Fare thee well! and if for ever,
Still for ever, fare thee well. ~ Lord Byron
2013 has not been a very happy year thus far. Besides my mom’s various health travails, I have recently lost and mourned four amazing women, who were all well loved, very strong, totally capable, fearless, influential and memorable. Pat passed away in January, and the other three earlier this month. Attending three memorial services in the span of one week was hard.
Afterwards, it occurred to me that although I thought I knew them pretty well, I really didn’t. At their memorial services, I learned so much more about who they actually were. It was a lesson to me to take the time to get to know my friends better and appreciate them in the present.
Pat: I thought I was her favorite person ever. She always made me feel as if I were. Her nature was always affirming, welcoming and complimentary. Plus she loved my dog to pieces. She was a faithful usher at St. Luke’s, always smiling at her post, 85 years old, but you wouldn’t have known it. Pat was slim, trim, with a ramrod straight posture, and so energetic! I discovered that she took on the responsibility of preparing the Sanctuary for worship early every Sunday morning, making sure every little detail was perfectly completed. She didn’t do it to make herself seem important. She just did it because it needed to be done. She did a LOT because it just needed to be done. And she was very happy to do it. I also learned that everybody thought they were her favorite person ever!
I aspire to be just like her.
Louise: My mom’s friend for decades, dating back to the forties, when they were classmates at Lanier Jr. High School, where they learned to play bridge and formed a club that lasted until death did they part. I knew she was a lot of fun and that my mom loved her to pieces, but I didn’t know that she was a masterful and charismatic English teacher at St. Thomas Episcopal for years. Why didn’t I know that? One of her former students spoke of the influence she had had on her life. All I can say is that I was so impressed when I learned of her passion and legacy.
I aspire to be just like her.
Carol: Our dear neighbor, a joyful, giving, laughing and loving person. When we moved to this street 17 years ago, she was so welcoming, and we have loved her ever since. She was a faithful and devoted friend to many; I was privileged to be one of them. She truly celebrated life, and we will miss her every day. Plus she (also) loved my dog to pieces. Did I mention that she was one of the “quiet people” (like Pat) who serve without expecting accolades? Not only did she sing in her church choir, but she also dedicated herself to the youth of the church, by being an MYF and choir camp counselor. And there was so much more mentioned by her family and one of the pastors. Why didn’t I know that?
I aspire to be just like her.
Skippy: The final memorial service last week was a joyful one in many respects. It was high church, but also very personal, because the officiants really knew and loved her. Skippy was the mom of two sons, good friends of ours whom we’ve known for years. She was hands down one of the most welcoming, gracious, hospitable and charming people in the world. The stories shared about her generous nature and thoughtful deeds humbled me. She was a woman of deep faith who loved her church greatly. In fact, after she had had a stroke and couldn’t speak, her family discovered she could sing, and so they all sang the old familiar hymns that she loved so much. I love that.
I aspire to be just like her.
My hope is for happier days ahead, but for now, I will cherish the memories of these four inspirational women and learn from their example how to live my life in a manner that may cause someone someday to aspire to be just like me.
Quite a challenge…
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